How do you tell if someone is lying to you? That’s a question that most of us have searched for an answer to at some point. Unfortunately, deception is a part of life. When the person you suspect is deceiving you is someone you care for, it’s unsettling. It’s easy enough to ask them if they’re being truthful, but if they are all that will result in is you insulting them.

There must be an easier and more discreet way to know when someone is lying to you, right?

There actually are. Consider hiring a private investigator Atlanta to do your dirty work for you. But if confrontation doesn’t get your stomach into a twist, then perhaps you can learn to spot a liar.

A person’s body language suggests a great deal about whether they’re being honest or not. Once you know what to look for, you can easily determine whether they’re being on the up and up with you.

In most cases when a person is being truthful with you they’ll have absolutely no problem looking you in the eye when the two of you are talking. They feel comfortable and relaxed and they actually make a point of looking straight at you. That’s not the case when someone is lying to you.

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Often, their eyes will survey the room around you instead of looking directly at you. They may even make a point of situating themselves so that you’re not right across from them. If the person you suspect is lying to you always prefers sitting next to you, rather than across, that’s a telltale sign that they’re trying to hide something.

We all know that when a person crosses their arms in front of their chest that’s a sign that they’re being defensive. You see it quite often when two people are in the middle of a heated argument. It’s also something many people do when they’re being dishonest. By subconsciously crossing their arms they’re sending a message that they’re trying to protect something. That something is likely the truth from being known. Pay special attention to this sign the next time you talk with the person you think is deceiving you.

Talking at a slower pace than normal is a dead giveaway for determining whether someone is lying to you. Liars generally think of their lie as they are talking. To this end they have to talk slower so they can form their dishonest thought. If you notice the person in questions talks much less quickly when you suspect they aren’t being honest, you’re probably right not to trust them.

The Four Signs of Lying

Body tells
The liar (let’s call this person Pinocchio as the LIAR sounds somewhat harsh) will probably minimize moving his or her body. He’ll almost certainly freeze a little like a deer caught in the headlights. His concentration will likely be focused on hiding the facts. Pinocchio may well flare his nostrils or even obstruct his face or mouth with his hands and wrists. He might likewise try and distance himself from you by means of putting materials between the two of you, e.g.: coffee mugs, plants, other people, etc.

Watch the mouth
A forced giggle (to cover evasiveness or even double-talk) only involves the mouth whereas a true, relaxed smile involves the whole face. You’ll spot the difference easily once you begin looking out for it. Also, the nervousness brought on by lying may trigger the liar’s mouth to become dry, and you will notice that the licks their lips a lot to compensate. How incredibly attractive.

The revealing nature of eyes
Since most people realize how much information and emotion are revealed through their eyes, liars are very reluctant to make eye-contact when they’re telling a fib. If you watch a small child who is obviously lying, you’ll see that any of us humans learn this at a very young age. Smart, huh? And kinda sly too. Also, the associated nervousness may cause dry eyes thus excessive blinking may also be apparent.

Symptoms of nervousness
Unless you’re dealing with a psychopath (lucky you), Pinocchio will find the lying experience quite uncomfortable. This is sometimes due to the fact that they believe that they are breaking the rules of a Higher Power (whether that be a god, kharma, or some other set of rules or doctrines) and they’re worried about answering for their sins in the future–as they should be. Look for signs of perspiration, fidgeting and excuses being made to use the washroom frequently.